What’s with age?

What’s with age?

These days I see a lot of rambling, a kind of social-turnover of ideas, if you will, regarding thirty or forty something women falling for young men. The modern lexicon has metamorphosed the word “cougar” which initially meant a feline creature with paws, like a cat, to brand these women. They are now the recent most talked about people, the sophistic-cat, the sybarites, a clan of successful, attractive women going for young boys to woo their senses, and let loose the carnal urges, The urban dictionary defines her as “An attractive woman in her 30's or 40's who is on the hunt once again. She may be found in the usual hunting grounds: nightclubs, bars, beaches, etc” Now does this really mean we are now finding another ingredient in the social hodgepodge of this already disorienting world we all inhabit. I am particularly transfixed by the idea that men may reach their sixties and still date and women who are doing the same are called ”cougars” The word has already raised several eyebrows, many women think the work is despicable, that it’s a sign of distorting the growing power of women in society. It is always held that for a successful connubial bond it is important that one of the mates is older than the others. The mental maturity of the older male will help the other one deal with difficult situations in life. And the older member has always been the male member. We are perhaps born with the erroneous idea that the male member is more mature than a woman of his age. And now, when many women seek to break the social customs they are banded as “cougars.” Why is this notion of female-choosing-young male suddenly the talk of the town? There is now a television show, several music videos and stuff like that. I wonder why these women are so intriguing and strange like gays. I mean people look at them with the same strangeness that they look at gays. I don’t get it, has it ever been encoded in strict terms that women cannot go for a younger mate. The talk is women who are forty-something are getting old and losing the electrifying spirit of life thus she goes “hunting” to pick up a young male member who will make her feel young again with his immaturity and youthful gestures. But does that really happen. Many of us are married with male members who are older to us and I think when we love truly from heart, age, and the branding, really seem stupid. But we are so into the social canons that women should be younger to men as shown in movies like Prime, that woman can not make a relationship work if her partner is young to her. I was wondering, when we first tied our social contracts many years ago was age this important as it is today? Or is it with industrialization and modernization of our lives we are being scotch taped to a seemingly intolerant Republican notion of the day, that all that is different is bad? Or are we doing it for self appeasement. That could be the reason, in a new world where entrainment spice is a must in your daily diet, the news makers seek to cloud the senses with a lot baseless stuff. But it is strange why many independent minds are taking the urban, so-called, funny ideas seriously as to going ahead and creating TV shows. May be we are all being commercialized in a way or the other. It is the modern zeitgeist to create mindless un-philosophical yet entertaining new words and thoughts. I think the overuse of media is making us go into a complex star-trek world of alien existence.

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